If you’re like me and you work full time, it’s already tough enough figuring out a work/life balance without throwing a time gobbling horse into the mix! (Nigel likes to eat everything, including time). And I know, it’s not like I have 3 screaming kids at home that I’m rushing to sport or helping with homework, but I do have 2 dogs (time gobblers) and a boyfriend named Dave. Now normally I would say something amusing about the fact Dave has a Bachelor in Engineering, yet doesn’t know how to switch on the vacuum cleaner, but he really is my number 1 fan.
I’m not sure how many men are out there who are ok with their partners dedicating the majority of their time to work, horses and dogs, but I am particularly fond of mine. The truth is, you never get an equal balance of work, life and horses. In fact, I’m lucky enough to have my horse in full agistment and still struggle with the balance! Sometimes you don’t even realise the imbalance until you’re on Instagram posting a selfie with your horse, and you hashtag it “couple goals”.
I have to admit, it took me a long time to realise that the way things have always been, doesn’t mean it’s the way things always have to stay. I worked a job that was really inflexible, I constantly felt guilty for being too tired to walk my dogs and I basically gave up any type of fun because it just didn’t exist in my world anymore. But, I started to realise that I didn’t have to work 12hr days (or longer) just to make a living, I didn’t have to feel exhausted all the time, and yes, I could have a career and horses! Self realisation is the single greatest thing I have achieved this year, it’s given me something more valuable then anything I own, and that’s time.
I made the decision to stop doing the things making me miserable. I got a GREAT new job, I bought a new car, and I brought home my horsey bff, Nigel. Now, it wasn’t necessarily easy to make these changes. I ummmed and ahhhhhed about changing jobs, but it was the best decision I ever made! I did have to give up a company car, but that’s nothing compared to what I’ve gained (a life!). And when it comes to balance, I think it’s really important to remember that we all get 24hrs in a day, but it’s lack of direction, not lack of time which is the problem.
So the truth about having a work/life/horse balance is it’s never too late to start over. If you’re not happy with yesterday, change it. Don’t settle for mediocre when you dream of extraordinary!
Cover photo credit; Christine Johnson
This blog is the personal opinion and experience of the author. You should always seek the advice of a professional horse riding instructor or trainer for your own specific situation or circumstance.